It’s February, the month of LUV. This idea makes you either look at the world with heart-shaped eyes or want to barf into a box of chocolates, depending on where you are at with the Valentine situation.
What if we forgot about the whole ‘You Must Be In a Loving Relationship With A Significant Other’ message of February and made it all about us instead? How about we concentrate on loving ourselves? I talked about this in last years’ February essay of The Badass Planner–loving the one you’re always with, which is YOU.
Think about how you talk to yourself. Is it with kindness and love? Or are you constantly looking in the mirror with thoughts or out-loud comments like, “I’m so fat”, “I’m so ugly”, “I’m so stupid”, or “I’ll never amount to anything”…unfortunately, that list can go on and on. We say things to ourselves that we would never say to someone else we loved. That Gollum voice can be extremely loud and very toxic, and the problem is that the more we say these things to ourselves the more our fabulous selves believe it. It’s a self-fulfilling prophecy. Ug, how damn depressing!
But there is hope, my friends! If ugly thoughts are powerful, than so are our uplifting ones. Let’s give them even MORE power. Let’s start replacing our Gollum voice with a Gandalf one instead…the Lord of the Rings wizard Gandalf can be a bit crabby, but he is supportive and wise.
In honor of Valentine’s Day month, be your own Gandalf by coming up with some happy-ass words to say to yourself instead of the go-to snarky ones! Affirmations have such a woo-woo connotation, but honestly, they are some powerful voodoo shit.
I mean there is actually some science behind all the ‘woo woo’ of a self-pep talk. Affirmations actually have the ability to rewire your brain. Saying something encouraging to yourself raises your level of feel-good hormones and pushes your brain toward forming new clusters of ‘positive thought’ neurons. And the fact of the matter is, when you keep telling yourself that you rock, or you can do whatever it is on your goal list, or that you are beautiful…you subconsciously start to believe it and start taking in and acting the way that these words and phrases make you feel. Badass Magic!
To help you out, I made a list of kick-ass words for you. Find one that makes you feel the way you want to feel about yourself and start trying it on for size. Put an ‘I Am’ in front of it to make it a phrase. Write that down or type it up, stick it up somewhere you can see it every day, speak it out loud to yourself as often as possible and believe it. It’s going to feel false (and tricksy!) and silly at first, but keep on keeping on. Eventually, it will stick.
If you really start believing something with your whole entire pea-pickin’ heart, you will eventually start acting that way. You will be manifesting some serious Badassery.
So here is my Valentine to you–write it, stick it, say it, believe it.
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